“What if I don’t have what it takes?”
Ever asked this of yourself?
I have. Multiple times.
In fact, it’s the question that introduced me to the world of coaching. At the time I was managing my own small digital agency. I had about 10 clients and could not stop wondering whether they would be better served by someone else. Whether I was charging them too much money. Whether my knowledge justified what I was charging.
A couple of years later I founded BetterMan and the same question popped up. This time at a higher level. Do I have what it takes to be a leader? Do I have what it takes to take BetterMan to the next level? To compete with the greats?
Personally, I think it’s a great question to ask.
Because it gives you the space needed to sit down and take stock of your resolve, mindset, abilities, knowledge, and skills.
This question has 2 elements to it. Macro and micro.
At a macro level the question is whether you have what it takes to elevate your game, to deal with stress and pressure. It’s not a question of ability or skill but rather of mindset and composure.
“Permanence, perseverance and persistence in spite of all obstacles, discouragements and impossibilities: It is this, that in all things distinguishes the strong soul from the weak.” Thomas Carlyle
At a macro level, whether you have what it takes or not is completely up to you.
- Are you willing to suffer for that which you desire?
- Are you willing to persevere when you feel that you are moving, but not getting anywhere?
- Are you willing to fight back when the world knocks you down?
Unfortunately (fortunately) the only way you will strengthen your resolve and will is by going through times that test them. But see it like this.
A test of your resolve also builds it. Your ability to cope gets twisted, pulled apart, bent until cracks start to appear. When you stay strong those cracks are filled. Reinforced. You come out stronger.
Think of it as Accretion for the mind.
This suggests that you should not merely ‘go’ through tough times. Use them. Fortify your mind.
At a micro level we are talking about your ability and skill. There should always be a gap between what you think you can do and what you can actually do.
I am not talking about gross incompetence. I am talking about believing in yourself and your ability to figure things out. To learn and acquire new skills as needed.
“Whenever you are asked if you can do a job, tell ’em, ‘Certainly I can!’ Then get busy and find out how to do it.” ― Theodore Roosevelt
How do you then go about acquiring those skills?
You identify which specific skills you need to acquire. You identify the core competencies required to master that skill. Then you get to work.
You layer hours of deliberate practice. You layer hours of focused effort. You layer hours of intention.
Do this and then tell me that you still doubt in your ability.
Life is pressure
No matter how glorious life can be in certain moments. Pressure is always lying beneath the surface. The bigger you lay your claim for success, the more you want out of life, the more pressure you will experience.
Saying yes to greatness, means saying yes to the pressure.
Those who deal with pressure effectively will go on to do great things.
Mark my words.
Acta non verba,