Five Unstoppable Behaviours of Successful Men
I’m going to start by getting something off my chest: I don’t believe that rattled-off lists can adequately inspire change and it is because of this that I have always preferred to steer clear of list-format articles on BetterMan.
In my opinion, two or three sentences cannot do the point you are trying to make proper justice. However, it is important that I take the Betterman audience into consideration – after all, it’s you I am writing for and audience response shows that there is a clear leaning towards concise and neatly arranged information.
As a result, in future, you can expect more posts like the one below. I will do my best to add sufficient weight to each point I list by referencing additional material for you to dive into. Let’s explore the five unstoppable behaviours and beliefs of successful men:
1. They are not blinded by passion
Passion is not essential for success or for a happy life. How many times have you heard someone say “just follow your passion”? It’s the equivalent of the nonsensical “build it and they will come” line that many first-time entrepreneurs believe.
It mostly leads to disaster.
What I have observed is that people often become passionate about the things that they excel at. You might start off simply enjoying an activity or merely doing it because of your job requirement but soon come to find an area that truly inspires you.
If you can monetise your passion, then go for it. There is absolutely nothing wrong with following your passion either. But beware the ‘passion-high’ that can lead you to making poor decisions. Fools, high on passion, rush in.
2. They seek out purpose and meaning
Ralph Waldo Emerson captured the essence of this when he said:
“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.”
We all strive for happiness, so you will be pleased to know that happiness and purpose, along with being useful and making a difference, are not mutually exclusive. In fact, I believe that when we discover meaning and purpose in the work that we do, this leads to greater happiness in comparison to the ‘passion-high’ previously mentioned.
Further reading: https://bettermanblueprint.com/etch-onto-heart/
3. They don’t require external motivation
Sounds like I am trying to put myself out of business, right? And you might be getting ready to throw the old Zig Ziglar classic in my face, “People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.”
There is something deeper to understand here; if you are not internally prepared for the battle, then you will never emerge victorious. External motivation is like applying a Band-Aid to a massive gushing wound. Sure, it might slow the blood loss but the person will eventually lose all life force if you do nothing to correct the cause of the bleed. In other words, repair and suture the gaping wound.
BetterMan is merely a tool. In the hands of someone with a steady resolve and the hunger for success it becomes lethal; in the hands of someone simply looking for a motivation-fix, it won’t accomplish much.
There is nothing wrong with external motivation for fueling the fire but if you want to become truly unstoppable you must reach deep and find the thirst, hunger and desire for success that inhabits every cell of your body.
4. They ‘pay the ferryman’
Greek mythology tells us of Charon, the ferryman that carried souls across the river Styx. He was the guy that made sure that a soul left the natural world, saving it from wandering aimlessly for eternity. This inspired people to bury their dead with coins in their eyes or mouth in order to pay Charon for their safe passage.
Success requires you to pay the ferryman.
It requires sacrifice.
What you sacrifice is up to you. The fact is that you have a finite amount of money, time and energy to distribute across all areas of your life. Spend it wisely.
Further reading: https://bettermanblueprint.com/the-things-that-matter-the-most/
5. They make time for quiet reflection and planning
“In preparing for battle I have always found that plans are useless, but planning is indispensable.” Dwight D. Eisenhower.
I remember one of my lecturers at Business School saying that no business plan ever survives first contact with a customer. It is this same principle that former President Eisenhower was alluding to. Planning allows for consideration of the battle plan from various angles, with an opportunity to contemplate diverse strategies and simulate potential moves based on what might be predicted from the enemy.
The trick is to follow the plan until it no longer makes sense to. Be fluid in your approach. And adaptable.
Often your plan will work flawlessly; other times it might fall apart. Both scenarios are acceptable. Both scenarios gained benefit from planning beforehand. Planning is the best way for you to allocate your precious time, money and energy.
Further reading: https://bettermanblueprint.com/the-lumberjack-approach/
Changing behaviors and beliefs are hard. After some time, they become hardwired into your physiology but they can be undone through intentional effort and practice. The behaviors and beliefs I discussed above are crucial but by no means exhaustive. This list will be updated in future articles.
As a last disclaimer, I feel the need to remind you that no two people are the same. There is no perfect combination of attributes that will guarantee success. It’s the constant iteration of who you are that will lead you to where you want to be. Success requires a certain fluidity in your beliefs and behaviors. You should be able to adapt them and let them go as needed. They are merely tools in the hands of the Great Strategist – You.